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| Cub at 3yrs Old |
From before my cub (aka my son) could even talk he had such presence, a really solid sense of self. It really threw me and I remember thinking, "how does he know"? Speaking to my family and friends who help me raise him, we agreed that children seemed to be born connected. Born knowing who they were and very much in touch with their power.
So then what happens? All sorts. School for a start, aka the beginning of comparisons and conformity. My cub bless him, is Master contraire. He has to do the exact opposite of what you tell him and at the young age of 7yrs, he can give you pretty good reasons why he chooses to do the opposite. He is also adamant that he doesn't appreciate being told what to do. Attitude and cheek of a teenager (ALREADDY!!! WTH!!!) I thought I had 10 more years of sweet cuteness at least.
The thing about being a single parent that always throws me, is how much I adore my cub, he's my favourite in the universe. I love it that he questions everything. That he talks to me and expresses his feelings and opinions freely. The flip side is he can drive me CRAZY! I do often clarify to him that he doesn't "make me angry" I react in anger to something that he does. I'm in charge of me.
Side Note! I really don't even think I had opinions at age 7, and if I did I curtainly kept them to my self. I was brought up old skool "children should be seen and not heard", "do as I say not as I do", keep out of big people business".
So for me sometimes I wish he would shout the hell up, do what he's told the first time and question everything EXCEPT ME!! and what I say.
Modern parenting!!.
Saying all that, I'm not alone. I speak to other parents and friends that help bring up kids in modern families, of these mordern times and it's a tough gig.
I want to bring up a confident, empowered young man so It's a learning curve. My Mummy says "children are supposed to evolve their parents" She feels that I evolved her as a mother (which is a HUGE complement because she's the best Mummy EVER!!) and my Cub will definitely evolve me. Hell he's already travelled more than I had at 17 by age 7.
So evolution is neigh!
In my growth journey as a modern single parent, I've found great tools. Tools to help me guide him through his childhood journey. First tool, both blood and choosen family. Priceless! No need to play SUPER MUMMY!
Last year I meet another single mum. An amazing lady called Dawatiie. She founded, bulit and runs a business call Holistic World at the same time as going through a divorce and bringing up two small boys. She totally inspired me. Especially as an entrepreneur, woman and mother.
Holistic World is a company that provides a range of resources to assist and contribute towards a holistic lifestyle for both adults and children.
Side Note! If you think you've got it tough, there's always someone who has bigger badder challenges than you and comes out shinning and smiling.
"You can go straight through hell with a smile"
Dawattie has collaborated with Artist and Graphic Designer Angela Cutler to create the most wonderful affirmation cards for children. The Magnificent Me, Magnificent You Empowerment cards provide
children with positive food for thought to support children in the
knowledge that they are unique and special with many gifts at their
disposal to support them on their life's journey.
And I just LOVE that! Don't you?!
The card in the picture reads:
"I Lead By Example"
Walk your talk, lead by example. Let your actions glow bright, lighting up a path for others to follow.
Cub loves his cards. It makes sense that he does, as they mostly reaffirms truths he instinctively knows. Awesome! Isn't it! ??
This same powerhouse female team of Dawattie and Angela also created the 1st of a series of childrens books, The Magnificent Me, Magnificent You. The Magnificent Me, Magnificent You, Grand Canyon story and activity book, empowers young children to nurture their physical selves, develop their emotional wellbeing, whilst also building on their
knowledge of
the world they live in.
I don't have a Cubs' verdict on the book yet because it's a Xmas present and it's even signed by the author Dawattie.
I don't have a Cubs' verdict on the book yet because it's a Xmas present and it's even signed by the author Dawattie.
I love anything that makes my life easier and gives Cub his own tools that help him own his greatness is a mega bonus for me.
I really don't want him to wait until he's in his 30's to wake up and reconnect with the higher version of himself. I want him to walk with, own and evolve continuously, throughout his life's journey with that higher version of himself.
It makes me smile just thinking of it.
I had a wonderful childhood. My close family always loved and supported me. Even so I put so much value on the opinion and criticism of others and doubted myself. I hope to at least give cub the gift of skipping all that BS.
That's part of the master plan anyway but I'm only a part of it. It's really his show, his life, his power.
Websites, tools and people I mentioned:
